May 9, 2025

413. Authentic Resilience: Navigating Life with Courage, Compassion, and Clarity

Happiness Solved with Sandee Sgarlata. In this episode, Sandee interviews Nathan Andres. In this engaging conversation, Nathan Andres shares his insights on happiness, resilience, and authenticity. He emphasizes the importance of bouncing beyond hardships rather than just bouncing back, and discusses the four key components of authentic resilience: facing reality, managing energy, understanding oneself, and living with love. The discussion also delves into the significance of energy management through four 'batteries'—physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual—and how they impact our ability to navigate life's challenges. Finally, the conversation touches on the nuances of authenticity in relationships and the importance of discernment in expressing one's true self. In this conversation, Nathan Andres and Sandee Sgarlata explore the concept of authenticity, emphasizing the importance of understanding one's values and engaging in deep self-discovery. They discuss the necessity of releasing negative influences that do not serve personal growth and the significance of self-love through self-care, self-compassion, and self-advocacy. The dialogue culminates in the idea of leading with love and building community as essential components of resilience and happiness. Guest Bio: Nathan Andres, M.A., is a coach, well-being and LGBTQ activist, and business leader. The drive to authentically serve others developed into a love of helping people, ultimately leading to a career in Human Resources where he’s spent over two decades so far. Nate knows his life purpose is to be a light, building authenticity and resilience in others. Having lived and traveled around the world, his mission is to show people the way through their struggles and teach them how to care for their whole person. Though he only started developing the REAL model in adulthood, his friends and family tell him he’s been coaching his whole life. A believer in life-long learning, and specialist in career reinvention, Nate first earned a Bachelors of Arts in Political Science from Marquette University in 1995. He is a 2004 graduate of New York University’s Human Resource Management Graduate Diploma program. In 2015, Nate became a Certified Professional and Executive Coach through ICF and earned a Masters of Arts, in Coaching, Learning & Development from Middlesex University, London in 2017. He is a member in good standing of the ICF - International Coaching Federation. A Columbus, Ohio (USA) native, Nate is truly a global citizen. He has traveled extensively around the world for business and pleasure. He is a popular public and online speaker having engaged audiences across four continents. Currently residing between Washington D.C. and Singapore, Nathan has been based in Asia-Pacific nearly 20 years; he lived twice in Tokyo, Japan and holds a permanent residency card in Hong Kong. Nathan is a four-time marathon finisher and enjoys tennis, yoga, strength training, meditation and movies. He is an avid Wellbeing & LGBTQ activist contributing to causes around the world. When off duty, Nathan and his husband spend endless hours playing with their dogs, Vivi & Coco. Takeaways: Resilience is about bouncing beyond hardships, not just back. Authentically resilient people face reality and manage their energy effectively. The 'reality curve' helps in navigating obstacles by acknowledging and accepting them quickly. Energy management involves understanding physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual batteries. Living authentically requires discernment, especially in relationships. Love is a crucial element in fostering resilience and well-being. Advertenity is where opportunity and adversity collide, fueling action. People often get stuck in the slope of suffering due to fear of facing reality. HALT (hungry, angry, lonely, tired) can drain energy and impact resilience. Authenticity should not come at the expense of others' feelings. Authenticity is deeply tied to understanding one's values. Self-discovery involves knowing your strengths and beliefs. Releasing what doesn't serve you is crucial for authenticity. Self-care is a daily practice, not just a vacation. Self-compassion is essential for mental well-being. Celebrating small wins can combat negative self-talk. Values manifest in our actions and interactions. Humor and community are vital for resilience. Self-advocacy empowers individuals to take charge of their well-being. True happiness comes from aligning actions with core values. Connect with Nathan: Website: https://www.nathanandres.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nathanandres_coach/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/nyandres/ Connect with Sandee: Website: www.sandeesgarlata.com Podcast: www.happinesssolved.com Facebook: www.facebook.com/coachsandeesgarlata Twitter: www.twitter.com/sandeesgarlata Instagram: www.instagram.com/coachsandeesgarlata

Show Notes

Guest Bio:

Nathan Andres, M.A., is a coach, well-being and LGBTQ activist, and business leader. The drive to authentically serve others developed into a love of helping people, ultimately leading to a career in Human Resources where he’s spent over two decades so far. Nate knows his life purpose is to be a light, building authenticity and resilience in others. Having lived and traveled around the world, his mission is to show people the way through their struggles and teach them how to care for their whole person. Though he only started developing the REAL model in adulthood, his friends and family tell him he’s been coaching his whole life. A believer in life-long learning, and specialist in career reinvention, Nate first earned a Bachelors of Arts in Political Science from Marquette University in 1995. He is a 2004 graduate of New York University’s Human Resource Management Graduate Diploma program. In 2015, Nate became a Certified Professional and Executive Coach through ICF and earned a Masters of Arts, in Coaching, Learning & Development from Middlesex University, London in 2017. He is a member in good standing of the ICF - International Coaching Federation. A Columbus, Ohio (USA) native, Nate is truly a global citizen. He has traveled extensively around the world for business and pleasure. He is a popular public and online speaker having engaged audiences across four continents. Currently residing between Washington D.C. and Singapore, Nathan has been based in Asia-Pacific nearly 20 years; he lived twice in Tokyo, Japan and holds a permanent residency card in Hong Kong. Nathan is a four-time marathon finisher and enjoys tennis, yoga, strength training, meditation and movies. He is an avid Wellbeing & LGBTQ activist contributing to causes around the world. When off duty, Nathan and his husband spend endless hours playing with their dogs, Vivi & Coco.

Takeaways:

Resilience is about bouncing beyond hardships, not just back.
Authentically resilient people face reality and manage their energy effectively.
The 'reality curve' helps in navigating obstacles by acknowledging and accepting them quickly.
Energy management involves understanding physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual batteries.
Living authentically requires discernment, especially in relationships.
Love is a crucial element in fostering resilience and well-being.
Advertenity is where opportunity and adversity collide, fueling action.
People often get stuck in the slope of suffering due to fear of facing reality.
HALT (hungry, angry, lonely, tired) can drain energy and impact resilience.
Authenticity should not come at the expense of others' feelings. Authenticity is deeply tied to understanding one's values.
Self-discovery involves knowing your strengths and beliefs.
Releasing what doesn't serve you is crucial for authenticity.
Self-care is a daily practice, not just a vacation.
Self-compassion is essential for mental well-being.
Celebrating small wins can combat negative self-talk.
Values manifest in our actions and interactions.
Humor and community are vital for resilience.
Self-advocacy empowers individuals to take charge of their well-being.
True happiness comes from aligning actions with core values.